Sometimes you might ask yourself, where do you stand? How are you supposed to know? With a little trick, you can better assess whether you are heading in the right direction.
Author: Olaf Zanger; 26.03.2022
A little excursion
Remember a difficult situation in your life, in which you would react differently today. There are many situations like that. Everybody has such situations in life again and again.
Well, how long did it take you to understand that it was the wrong reaction? Exactly, for some situations I still don't understand it today and maybe I will understand it only on my deathbed or afterwards, for others e.g. concerning what happened in my marriage it took me 10 years. Other situations I understand already after one year or one month. Finally, there are situations in which I can postpone my usual reaction for a few milliseconds or seconds. This time is enough to choose a new reaction. THAT is what we call freedom. But about that in another post. Back to this time slot between situation and understanding.
Measuring development
So we understand a situation differently late after the situation: on the deathbed, 10 years after, 1 year after, 1 month after, 1 day after, 1 hour after, 1 minute after, 1 second after.
This understanding is different depending on the subject and depending on the general condition we are in. For example, how stressed we are.
Someone who can freely choose his reaction to any subject in any situation, we would probably think he is "free" or name him "yogi".
Measure
The more consciously we can choose our reaction per topic the more we have progressed in our development.
If that even works under stress, again we have progressed in our development.
Conclusion
One has changed if one reacts differently than before.
One lives consciously when one can consciously decide one's reaction.
"Freedom" you have, if you are be able to choose.
Where we stand per subject can be seen by how long it takes us to understand the situation. And we should include our own condition when we look at such situations.
Author: Olaf Zanger (Translated with www.deepl.com)
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